3 Tips to Manage Infant Twins Alone
Bringing home my twins from the hospital, 6 years ago, I was ecstatic that I was finally able to experience them in my own environment and I was eager to develop strategies to cope with them. I was finally going to laugh, cuddle with them and double the love giving, but soon I realized that the reality of coping with infant twins wasn’t exactly what I thought nor was it on my preferred list.
For most women handling newborn twins isn’t easy, it is exhausting, tough, gloomy, emotionally crushing and agonizingly stressful. I found out that:
- It was extremely hard to raise twins without proper rest especially if you also have other kids yearning for your attention.
- Picking up a crying baby from the stroller and keep pushing it along so that the other one can stay asleep, is impossible.
- I sometimes had to carry one baby in a baby wrap while juggling the swing to put the other to sleep.
- Sometimes I envied parents who only had one baby or other twin moms who found a way to enjoy their double blessings and not be so stressed out all the time.
Coping strategies you’ll love.
Raising twins is mind-boggling, stressful and your attention is all over the place. Luckily there are methods you can put to use to make your life easier. The first and foremost strategy is settling into a routine. A routine that will allow you to cope and bond with your twins and still have time for you and older kids.
So without further ado, here are some of the things I did that got me through these rough months.
Create a schedule and put your twins on it.
Putting your twins on the same schedule gives you the opportunity to create more space and time for yourself and other kids and most importantly you get to build your own schedule around theirs. Make sure your schedule includes:
Bottle feeding: Prepare bottles in advance so that they are ready for feeding time. Take it a step further and prepare bottles for a whole day and keep them in the refrigerator.
Breastfeeding: It is almost impossible to breastfeed both babies simultaneously. You can choose to feed one first then the other but the best way to go about this is to pump and refrigerate your breast milk.
Napping: Lull both your babies to sleep at the same time to develop a synchronized sleep pattern.
Find your babies napping weakness
Putting my twins to sleep was a real challenge. Sometimes one would sleep while the other is wide awake. Experimenting and finding what lulls them to sleep was the game changer. Observe and find out what makes your babies sleep faster. It might be the stroller, an infant cushion, swaddling them in their cribs etc. Once you know, use that to put them to sleep in the future.
Additionally, when your babies are old enough, you can sleep train them, but be sure to get the approval of your paediatrician before attempting any form of sleep training.
Is there any help out there?
If you are still having problems settling into a routine and you can afford it, I would recommend you get some paid help to assist you with the babies. This option can really make a difference. While it is important to bond with your children and spend time, it is also essential that you rest and rejuvenate so that you can give your babies the best version of you.
I remember when I first brought my twins home, I wanted to do everything, although had a lot of support, I felt like I was neglecting my twins somehow if I opted to have someone look after them. I soon realized I was not superwoman and I needed some help. Once I understood the importance of this, my twins benefitted from a happier and well-rested mom so don’t be afraid to ask for help, it may be the best idea for you and your babies.
Let me know some of your coping strategies when dealing with your babies, I would love to hear about them.